Fearlessly Curious
Fearlessly Curious
S02E01: Navigating Relationships - Conscious Parenting Communication | Awareness, Authority & Accountability
Season 2 #fearlesslycuriouspodcast kicks off with a clip from a real Conscious Parenting Coaching Session where I address the situation of a child choosing NOT to communicate with an authority figure, and the parent's role in managing this situation.
I present an opportunity for the parents to recognise their child's consistent decisions to assert her boundaries as qualities in her developing character to be admired.
Their child is clear on their needs, has the ability to express them, is consistently & confidently showing up in their decisions showing strong boundaries.
We discuss how parents can support their children while maintaining safe and legal practices and the importance of open dialogues and understanding the perspectives of both the parents and the child.
I highlight to the parents the importance of being open to expressing to their child that they are figuring things out, doing the best they can with what they know as they go along and sometimes parents don’t make the best decisions.
At the end of the day they are in this together and as long as together they stand strong with a forward view on refining and improving then any errors can be resolved with loving kindness and compassion
In every coaching session, the aim is not just to share and discuss but to suggest strategies for parents to honour their children's unique needs, in this case upholding boundaries, while fulfilling their legal obligations and responsibilities.
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[00:00:01] Melissa: what's on your heart and in your mind today to share and to discuss. how can I support you ?
[00:00:07] Father: In our last discussion, we anticipated our child might not attend the meeting. Despite hoping otherwise, they didn't.attend. However, thanks to our previous session, we quickly moved on and had a productive conversation, proposing a potential solution.
[00:00:23] Mother: Our child mentioned receiving a message they wouldn't respond to despite being asked to engage. I asked why; they wished to avoid a prolonged conversation with someone they'd rather not engage with. I acknowledged their preference.
[00:00:38] Melissa: first of all, big win, right because she's consistent. So how perhaps the system or the authorities may see her as being rebellious or stubborn. I just see her as being consistent and boundaried. She said she would give it a thought.
[00:00:56] She did, and she's honoring herself and she's just being consistent. That's something to admire. And a big win for you as parents, because it becomes easier for her to honor her boundaries when she feels supported by her parents.
[00:01:10] And the fact that you're able to communicate and say, this is a solution that we believe is the right solution. You are already showing up for her and being so clear to the authorities where you stand with her.
[00:01:20] So you gave permission for that? Did you have a conversation her before?
[00:01:24] No. So that might have been something you could have done, which is to say to the doctor, I see this is what you'd like to do. You have my permission, but I do need to speak to my daughter first so that we can manage expectations
[00:01:37] I would like to ask her permission. If she says, no, I will assert my parental duty and say , "I know you are not comfortable with this, but as your parent, as your legal guardian, I am going to give permission because you didn't show up for the session. So there's certain things I need you to acknowledge as your legal guardian. I acknowledge .
[00:02:00] I see you, I hear you. I honor your boundary. Right now, legally, this is a decision that I have to make." she's choosing not to respond
[00:02:09] to the doctor, she's not responding because she did not give permission. I, as a legal guardian, gave the number to you. we need to see where she's standing right now. At the end of the day, no matter what her age, she has a right.
[00:02:22] to not respondand she's exercising that. Nobody can force her.
[00:02:27] at least everybody is on the same page and can acknowledge what is, so this is just simply the practice . 'I had the conversation with her. I explained to her, I've asked her permission, she has said no. Any repercussions of that she can be accountable for.
[00:02:44] both of you can still sit down with her and have this conversation retrospectively.
[00:02:47] " We realized that we could have done things differently. I could have asked you permission had you said no, please know as your legal guardian, it's not that I'm overriding your No, but I do have a duty because I'm, I'm now the go-between, you and the doctor, and I see this doctor genuinely wants to make a connection.
[00:03:10] We'll go at your pace, but there's certain times where I need you to surrender to me as your legal guardian, as your parent. I hope you know that I always am looking out for the best for you. That's why we're standing up for you. That's why we're speaking to the authorities. So keep that dialogue open with her.
[00:03:29] Because remember, from the human design perspective, the manifestor part of her as a manifesting generator, you are informing, you see, she wasn't asked permission.
[00:03:38] Father: As a parent, it's essential to recognize that while your child might be 15—not yet 18—it's vital to sometimes allow them the space to make their own decisions. The question then becomes: Can you entrust your child with that responsibility? This isn't about relinquishing control, but rather, about fostering trust and encouraging independence.
[00:03:59] Melissa: You can still give her the space to make her own decisions, these are the pros, cons.
[00:04:04] These are the repercussions. the impact for us as your parents. we have a legal obligation to respond a certain way. ' cause she's smart.
[00:04:14] She gets it.